On our trip back to Yamaguchi during the Golden week, we’ve went to visit the hotel where we will be holding our wedding ceremony & reception lunch. A few months before deciding on this location, my mum-in-law helped us to gather a number of wedding pamphlets for our reference.
In Japan, the couple decides on what type of ceremony they wishes to hold. Church / Chapel ceremony (教会式 / チャペル式), exchanging vows in-front of families & friends (人前式) and Shinto ceremony (神前式). After looking through the pamphlets, we came to a decision of doing a Shinto ceremony. Partly is because I wanted to wear the uchi-kake (打ち掛け), another reason would be the cost. The ceremony looks something like this ↓ (image from Google)
Then! We need to decide on the wedding date. Likewise in Singapore, Chinese usually looks at the lunar calendar and compare it with their ‘eight characters’. However, the calendar in Japan is fairly simple. They have certain ‘recommended’ days that are meant for ‘wedding’, ‘moving’, ‘travelling’ and etc… So, 1st December in the calendar reads tomo-biki (友引) and it’s good for celebration event (i.e. wedding).
After visiting the hotel and a talk with the bridal consultant, they handed us a few information such as timeline, schedule of the flow, and a file which acts as a wedding note/checklist. The way the hotel handles certain items are quite different from Singapore’s hotel. For example, inside the suggested wedding package, they calculate the cost by no. of attendees instead of per table. The seating arrangements are usually in 5 ~ 8 guests per table. Unlike our Chinese style where you squeeze 10 guests into a table. 🙂
As we have limited time in Yamaguchi, my mum-in-law has helped us to book a slot with the wedding dress rental shop straight after the consultant. As I already have in mind how many dresses I want to wear during my big day, we went straight to the selection room. I was surprised to see so many colorful dresses and of course, white wedding dresses too. 😀 So I went round the racks and racks of dresses, picking up some that I may want to try on. I have to tell you……. I was soooooo nervous that I was sweating like the room is a sauna itself. After trying on the dresses, we went to another room to try out the colored uchi-kake. I prefer colored uchi-kake than the shiromuku (白無垢) because I think my skin tone doesn’t fit shiromuku that well.
We will need to go back to Yamaguchi again for our 2nd discussion with the hotel consultant and 2nd fitting of the wedding dresses in Summer. Which means we need to fly back and in other to save cost, we need to get the tickets early. Which also means that Y-chan has to take annual leaves for it. This is so troublesome because in Japan, taking annual leaves (for around 3 to 5 days) is considered a nuisance to other colleagues. So I can imagine Y-chan getting reprimanded for this if he takes a number of annual leaves. (This is one of the reason why I sometimes disagree on the Japanese way of thinking, especially on annual leaves. It’s entitled in the contract, so definitely the individuals are entitled to use it right? Of course, the individual has to be considerate and choose the dates that’s not a busy period in the company.)
We’re just hoping for a smooth process of our wedding preparation with the help of our friends. 😀
Ending off with a back-shot of me in Jill Stuart‘s colored dress collection & colored uchi-kake ♥
Jill Stuart’s colored dress collection
Black x Gold uchi-kake